January 21, 2016

Lunch With A Friend


If you and I met for lunch, I’d probably invite you to meet me at La Madeleine’s or the Olive Garden, or maybe my favorite Mexican restaurant. We’d linger long after we finished our meal and continue talking and catching up on our lives.  I think most of us realize how important it is to have these long visits with friends.

I have a friend that I lost track of for a while, she moved away, moved back, but far across town….eventually after many delays we finally successfully managed to meet for lunch at a halfway point between our homes so that each one of us only had to drive about thirty minutes. 

After we were seated and were sipping our iced tea, I asked “How are you doing?” and her “fine” didn’t sound fine at all.

When her voice started to tremble and tears welled up in her eyes I knew something was wrong. When she began to spell out a difficult situation in their family, she also shared that she hadn’t told anyone because she was afraid of what others would think.

She admitted though that holding it in and not talking to anyone seemed to just make the stress harder to bear. She finally realized she needed to be open and we talked about the fact that when we don’t share our burdens we end up adding burden to burden. 

What do I mean by adding burden to burden?  

The best way I know to describe it is that when we have difficulty sharing our burden with others because we think it is too much for them to handle, we are adding a new burden to our already existing burden. This happens when we are reluctant to open up with people and talk about what we are going through, not wanting to impose our problems on others.

God made His family to have that desire to come alongside hurting people and help them through the hard times. It is part of His plan to carry us through those difficult times and out of the valley. God goes with you and brings others to walk the journey with you.  Our friends can help us carry life’s burdens so that we don’t have to walk through them alone. 

2 Corinthians 1:3-4 
Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort those who are in any trouble, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.